When you want to give someone "A piece of my mind"...TRASH IT!

So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Philippians 2:1-3

I thought my motivation was spot on, but I missed the mark completely. Recently I gave my son a piece of my mind that would have been better placed in the trash can of my mental hard drive. My words weren't harsh (I've done that plenty in the past) but they were absent of wisdom. They were born out of anxiousness and even sounded like they might make sense. But they lacked the focused and life-giving wisdom from above. The words I said were laden with discouragement that flowed from and unchecked mind – not the mind of Christ or of the Holy Spirit.

When we give someone "a piece of my mind", whether harsh or sweet, we're dipping into an empty well. The best we can hope for is impotent speech but oftentimes a crash is imminent. Someone always gets damaged because our mind, without the direct guidance of God, is a destructive force that spouts nonsensical ramblings that can only lead others in circles or produces lazar shots that leave people wounded or dead. How many people are wandering today because of words without wisdom? How many are injured because of powerful words given without the guidance of God?

The apostle Paul knew we ran the risk of being reckless at any given moment so his solution is clear – "being of the same mind". That means we submit our heart, soul, mind, and strength to Christ. It means that the Holy Spirit is allowed to fully vet our words before one is spoken.

Some may think this is a tall order but it's so doable through surrender. A surrendered mind turns loose rivers of living water. The piece of our mind that is guided by God is a beautiful mind. It doesn't mean that all words will be received with pleasure and joy. But it does mean that truth will be baked in love and life giving words will flow. It's our role to speak with the mind of Christ and to leave the rest to God. 

The next time you're tempted to give someone "a piece of my mind", no matter how justified you may feel, stop dead in your tracks before someone gets hurt. Trash it and hit the reset button of surrender. Look at that life before you as a precious creation of God and let flow the words of life. Nobody wins with the former, everybody has a chance to win with the latter.